This picture is one of me in college. With back to school gearing up, I have been thinking a TON about my high school/ college days. Mostly college. And while they were so great, there are a few things I wish I could have told myself back when this picture was taken, so I’m sharing them with y’all today via a few tips and a few truths or verses!
1. Remember that these days are really fun, but they aren’t necessarily the “best days of your life” like people tend to say.
I don’t know how many times I heard, “Oh college is the best time of your life so enjoy!” And yes, I had a WONDERFUL college experience, but I don’t know that I would say that it was the “best time of my life.” I feel like trying to label it as that might have led me to put pressure on the experience instead of just enjoying it and living in the moment! My advice is to do that….just live in the moment! Join the club, go for the position you want, study all night if you need to, but remember that there IS life AFTER college too! So if you’re unhappy or struggling, realize that there is so much more life for you to live when you graduate too!! And don’t feel like this HAS to be the “best time of your life”. There’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t feel that way. And don’t feel like you need to MAKE it the best time of your life either. Just make it the best experience that you can! 🙂
“There is an occasion for everything, and a time for every activity under heaven…” Ecclesiastes 3:1
2. It’s okay if the plans you have for yourself right now aren’t exactly how things pan out for you.
I thought I had my life figured out in college. I knew exactly what I wanted to major in, the school I wanted to go to, the dance team I wanted to be on all by the time I was a sophomore in high school. Then when I got to college, I knew exactly where I wanted to end up when the experience was over. And you know what? Lots of things happened just how I hoped by the grace of God. And lots of things didn’t. And since college, my life looks COMPLETELY different than I ever thought it would! At this point, I’m about four years out and if you would have told me then what my life would look like now, I probably would have laughed at you and said “no way.” haha. And you know what? I am happier now than I have ever been. There’s alot of reasons why, but the main one is simply because I have found Jesus more and more since college…which leads me to the next tip I have for you…
“‘For I know the plans I have for you’ – this is the Lord’s declatration- ‘plans for your well-being, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope’.” Jeremiah 29:11
3. Make time for Jesus.
If you only take one thing away from this post, I pray it’s this. I was really good about this for seasons of college, and I was horrible about it for seasons. I SO encourage you to make the time to spend in God’s Word. I have learned since college that we can’t know God or hear His voice if we aren’t spending time with Him. And there are so many things that I think about that I might have done differently if I would have just humbled myself and realized that I wasn’t doing what I needed to do to experience Him as fully back then.
If you aren’t sure where to start, I’m linking a few posts/resources I’ve created for you that I’ve created that I WISH I would have had when I was in college!
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.” Matthew 6:33
4. Your identity in college is NOT your identity when you graduate.
It is SO easy to get wrapped up in who you are in college. This is one thing that I WISH someone would have drilled into my head not to do. The positions that you hold, the awards you win, the parties you go to, the parties you don’t go to, your GPA… it DOES NOT define who you are after you graduate! It just doesn’t. So if something doesn’t go your way, don’t beat yourself up about it and think your life is over. If everything goes your way, don’t think that just because you like where you are now that you will like where you are once college is over. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with being successful or wanting to be successful and have high standards and goals for yourself in college…I’m all for that! You go, girl! But what I am saying is that I wish someone would have looked me in the face and told me “This is just who you are RIGHT NOW. This isn’t all you’re ever going to be.” Ultimately, your identity lies in who you are in Christ, not what you are or who you are during these four (or maybe five… 😉 ) years.
“For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.”
5. College is just a season.
At the end of the day, you WILL not be in college at some point in your life! You will either decide that it’s not for you or you will graduate. So, don’t think that college is the end-all, be-all for you because it just isn’t! Is this a really important, fun, life-changing season of self-discovery for you? Absolutely!!! But it’s just that…a short season in the grand scheme of your life! So make the most of it, but keep your perspective in check! Live in the moment, but don’t get so wrapped up in the college-moment that you forget that there is life outside of it too!
“Pay careful attention, then, to how you live- not as unwise peope but as wise- making the most of the time, because the days are evil.” Ephesians 5:15-16
If you’re starting school soon, I hope that these tips and truths help you! Like I said, I wish someone would have sat me down and really just shot it to me straight back then. And as I sit here pregnant with a daughter, oh how I hope her heart knows this when it’s time for her to go off and leave me! I’m already crying thinking about it!! haha.