These next two verses ya’ll. They’re short, but there is oh so much there! You can click on the links here if you missed the INTRO or PART 1 of the “The Proverbs 31 Woman: A Closer Look” Series! Today we will be tackling the next two verses, and there is just SO MUCH richness there to me! This will definitely be a longer post! haha!
I read this verse in about six different translations. ( I will link the two verses in all the different translations I used at the bottom of the post if you’re interested!) That might sound crazy, but reading it in this many different ways really helps me to get a clearer picture of what the author is saying.
At first, this verse seemed to me like it was all about the husband trusting his wife. Beacuse it doesn’t say “can ususally trust her” or “can almost always trust her”. It verifies that this husband CAN and DOES trust his wife. The NKJV even says “the heart of her husband SAFELY trusts her” (emphasis mine). Since Proverbs 4:23 tells us to “Guard our hearts above all else…”, the fact that her husband’s HEART SAFELY trusts his wife means that he has 100% confidence and reliance on her heart being worthy of this trust. He doesn’t have a reason to doubt this.
All that being said, I spent a good while trying to figure out how the Proverbs 31 woman had earned this trust. Then suddenly, it all became clear (thank you, Lord!).
The husband of the Proverbs 31 woman so completely, safely, and wholly trusts her BECAUSE she enriches his life.
This can be seen in the latter part of verse 11 & verse 12. When we make our husband’s lives richer, fuller, deeper, we are then earning and keeping his trust. So how can we do that? Here are a easy ways I think we can enrich our husband’s life.
Speak only highly of him in public. I am not saying that every single thing you say about your husband needs to be oozing with praise and compliments (because let’s be real- some things that mine says/does just make me giggle and I want to share them!). But, in general, my rule of thumb when I’m saying something about my husband to ANYONE is “Does what I’m about to say let others know that I love and adore my husband?” And if the answer is no, then I don’t say it.
Think about it… we have the ability to paint a picture of how others view our husbands when we speak about him. So choose to focus on things that you love about him, sweet things he does for you, and how great of a man he is! Be his biggest cheerleader! Do NOT tear him down whatever you do! Honestly, I get SOOOO uncomfortable when a friend of mine starts bad-mouthing her husband. So don’t be this person to your friends or family. Instead, paint a WONDERFUL picture of your husband. This is SUCH an easy way to enrich his life. Think about how bad it would make him feel if he found out that his own wife said bad things about him. And how bad would it make you feel if you found out that your husband was saying bad things about you to others?
Love on him! Loving on your husband is another easy way to enrich his life. I love how the Message paraphrase of the Bible puts verse 12. It says, “Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.” What a word huh?! So how can we treat our husbands “generously”? I think that put simply it means laying down our own selfish desires whenever we can. Whether that be cooking his favorite dinner instead of yours every so often, encouraging him to go play golf for a day even if it means you spend the day cleaning the house alone, whatever, loving on him DEFINITELY will enrich his life! You can also love on him by praying for him, reminding him of the Scriptures, sending him love notes. There are SO many ways to do this! Click HERE if you want to read about more easy ways to love on your hubs!
Support him. Women were created to be man’s helper. Genesis 2:18 says “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper corresponnding to him.” And then he made woman! When I think of “helper”, I also think of a “supporter.” So, how can you support your husband? Do you encourage him when he doubts himself? Do you submit to him? Do you make sure you help him out wihtout complaining about it when you can? Do you encourage him at his workplace and thank him for what he does for you? (Click HERE if you want to read more ways to support your hubs at his job!) Basically, are you there for your husband in all aspects?
Have a positive spirit! Now this one can be a toughy for sure. But in the first part of verse 12, it says that “she brings him good, not evil.” Complaining, being irritated, nagging, being short- tempered, these are all things that I would throw in the “evil” category. Instead, focus on bringing good to your husbands life! Be in a good mood when he gets home. Don’t throw a fit if he asks you to help pull weeds (#guilty…). Don’t complain to him when he needs to spend an extra hour or two at work on day. Don’t blow up if he leaves his clothes on the floor. Focus on treating him with patience, gentleness, and self-control instead. Be a postivie, uplifiting spirit in his life!
Don’t try to change him. This is the literal WORST MISTAKE you can make in a marriage in my opinion! You CANNOT change your husband. Only God can. So if there is something about him that you just can’t stand after you get married, girl, get on your knees because you trying to do the changing of him will probably only make him resist it more. God is a good God who can move mountains, and he is the only one who can change the heart of your husband too. So if there is something that you feel needs changing, then trust that God can and will change your husband if he needs it. But in reality, maybe take a minute to pause and see if your heart is completely in the right place too.
Become the best wife you can be. Maybe this is the best piece of advice I can offer about how to enrich your husband’s life. Because at the end of the day, you can only control yourself. You can’t control your husband. He is his own person. But you striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman, having a heart that is searching for the Lord, and trying to become the best wife you can, now that is something that will DEFINITELY enrich your husbands life.
In thinking over these two verses, praying through them, and reading them in many different ways, we can see that the sweet trust the Proverbs 31 Woman’s husband has in her comes from the simple fact that she enriches his life. So if you take anything away from this post, I hope that it’s this:
Make your husband’s life better because you’re in it.
What are some other ways that you strive to enrich your own hubby’s life?! I would love to know!
Here is Proverbs 31:11-12 in all of the different translations I used!
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