A few words that I hear constantly these days to describe women are: strong, independent, tough, and self-sufficient. While I don’t think there is ANYTHING wrong with being a strong, independent, tough, and self-sufficient woman, I DO think that all of these characteristics can be acheived while still maintaining something that I don’t think is celebrated enough in our culture today: femininity.
While I have always admired and studied women of the Bible, more and more I have quit even admiring/following/striving to be like women who are often praised and celebrated in our culture today. I think that finding examples of women in the Bible is the best way to become the best kind of strong, independent, tough, and self-sufficient woman.
When I contrast the strength, independence, toughness, and self-sufficiency of the women celebrated in culture versus the women celebrated in the Bible, I continue to find that the women in the Bible had ALL of these qualities while still remaining feminine. They were submissive and supportive of their husbands. They raised their children and took care of their homes. They loved Jesus and served Him.
Now… were they strong? Absolutely. Their strength came from the Lord.
Were they independent? Yes, but they still depended on the Lord to provide for them. And they submitted to their husbands as well.
Were they tough? Yep. They prayed with passion and perseverence even when they couldn’t see the answers immediately.
Were they self-sufficient? They had to be in order to provide what they needed to for their families. They had skills that they used to help contribute to their families well-being. But, their self-sufficiency was used to serve others, not themselves as we so often see in pop-culture today.
One place in the Bible that speaks in length of “The Wife of Noble Character” or “The Virtuous Wife” is Proverbs 31. So, this month, I will be starting a new series called “The Proverbs 31 Woman: A Closer Look.”
Let me preface by saying this: YOU DON’T NEED TO BE MARRIED TO GET SOMETHING OUT OF THIS! If you are single, then be thankful that you have time to develop into a woman of this calliber before you become a wife! Please don’t be discouraged from keeping up with this series just because you don’t feel like it doesn’t apply to you- it TOTALLY does! The good guys out there will be looking for girls like this! And you have the chance to become this girl!
If you are dating, engaged, or married, don’t feel like a failure! Rather, use Proverbs 31 to help you develop into a BETTER girlfriend, fiance, or wife than you are right now!
I hope this series encourages you to know that femininity isn’t something to be ashamed of because I know for me, it is easy to fall into feeling like it is in this culture we live in. It absolutely is not!
You can be feminine and graceful and lovely while simultaneously being strong and capable and empowered.
Your empowerment just comes from the One who is all-powerful. You strength will come from the One who is always stronger. And you will be made capable by the One who is capable of all things.
I am still praying through the first post of this series, so you can expect to find it up no later than next week! I hope you’ll join me for this!