Engagement is SUCH a sweet, sweet season. I LOVED being engaged. Everyone wanting to see pictures of you and your boy, asking when the big day is, the excitement of shopping/buying your wedding dress, practicing writing your new name…all of it is just so fun!
This is a picture of the day my Hubby and I got engaged. I had already cried many tears at that point, and I cried many more over the rest of the weekend from pure joy. lol. Our engagi-versary was a few weeks ago, and there are a few things that I wish I knew when this picture was taken. So today, I’m sharing them with ya’ll along with a tiny bit of my wedding planning experience- which was a very quick one…we went from engaged to married in just about four and a half months exactly!
1. The most important details to iron out are the ones that contribute to the atmosphere you want to create for your wedding.
Your wedding will reflect you and your hubby’s personalities. It automatically will because it will be all of y’alls preferences! So that’s great news! Consider what you want your guests to think when they leave your wedding. What do you want them to remember? What kind of atmosphere do you want to create for them/ what kind of experience do you want them to have? If a part of the planning process relates to this, then I think it’s great to really put time, effort, and maybe a tad more of your budget into this area. If there’s something that you would love to have, but maybe it just won’t affect this, then DO NOT stress yourself out over it! All of the major decisions (venue, menu, dress, etc) have to be decided fairly early on anyways, and little details after those decisions are just that…little details. So if you’re stressing out over tons of minor things, prioritize and focus on the ones that really do contribute to the overall atmosphere you want to create! Trust me, no one is going to remember what your cake napkins looked like the day after your wedding anyways! lol.
2. It’s okay to trust the opinions and experience of people who you hire to help you.
If you are doing everything totally on your own, then you go, girl! More power to you! But chances are, you probably have at least one person that you have hired to help you. I would have lost my marbles (and my mom probably would have lost hers too…lol) without the help of my day-of-coordinator. And I trusted her on so many different things while planning because she knew more than I did about weddings! So if you have someone to help you, don’t be afraid to trust their recommendations! Chances are they have their opinions from experience and are wanting to help you make your wedding dreams come true! Plus, the nicer/sweeter you are to them, the more they will want to make you happy and do a good job for you. Bottom line is….you don’t have to know everything going into planning your wedding, and it is PERFECTLY fine to trust those who you pick to help make your day as special as can be for you!
One area where I am SO happy I trusted expert opinions instead of my own stubborn ideas is the color of my dress. I had saved myself for marriage, so I was dead-set on wearing WHITE. I didn’t want cream, ivory, or champagne….I wanted WHITE. However, everyone kept telling me that WHITE dresses didn’t photograph as nicely. Eventually, I went with an Ivory dress with a champagne layer underneath and guess what? It photographed perfectly WHITE in all my photos. I am SO glad that I listened and didn’t let my stubbornness get in the way. Because I LOVE the way my dress photographed.
3. At the end of the day, no matter what happens while you’re planning, you are still going to get married and it will be YOUR sweetest day ever!
No matter how stressed out you are, what decisions you make, how many people come, what color your bridesmaids wear, what you serve for dinner, or how your cake tastes, at the end of your day, you are going to be married. That will happen. So really, is being stressed out to the point that you don’t enjoy your engagement worth it? I don’t think so. So don’t let yourself get so worked up that you stop living in the moment and enjoying the sweet season you are in. Being engaged is a precious time so full of hope and anticipation and just overall sweetness. I can’t think of a better word for it than that! So soak it up!!!
Now, it is totally natural to have a few little melt-downs. Did I have a few freak-outs and stressful moments? Absolutely. But I really don’t feel like I ever lost sight of the most important thing- that I got to marry the sweet boy who got down on one knee and used my full name when he asked me to marry him. So just keep your eyes on the prize- you’re getting a HUSBAND at the end of the day no matter what else happens!!!