What to Do When You’re Not Sure What to Do- A Look at Queen Esther

Ever felt like you just didn’t know what to do? Whether it be accepting the job, making the move, dating the boy, having the conversation, confronting the friend, whatever it may be….have you ever just felt like you couldn’t make a move because you didn’t know what to do?

I have.  Tons of times.

There’s a woman in the Bible that I also bet didn’t know what to do several times throughout her story, and I have loved her since I was little.  It’s Queen Esther.

To sum her up, she was an orphan who was then ripped from the family she grew up with (an older cousin who raised her) because she was taken to the palace of her land to participate essentially in a beauty pagent to become the next queen.  Spoiler: she won and was given quite the crown…queen of the land.  Her cousin who raised her told her to disguise her identity because her people (the Jews) weren’t well-liked at the time.  Then she was told that she needed to approach the King without being summoned, which meant she could be put to death if he didn’t receive her, because the Jews were all sentenced to death.

Quite the story, huh? lol.  If you want to read the full story before you read this post, click HERE!  It isn’t very long! 🙂

What I love about Esther is that she had unwavering faith in the midst of her trials.  And you know what? I bet she didn’t know what to do alot of the time! She was thrown into an unfamiliar, unknown,  uncertain situation.  Then, just when everything seemed to be going well and she’s the queen of the land, she is thrown another massive curveball.

I have learned TONS from Esther throughout the years, and one of the main things I have learned is how to approach situations when I’m unsure of what to do.  Because I bet she was really uncertain at times too.  Let’s take a look at Esther’s actions throughout her story and see what she DID do that ultimately led to her making a gigantic decision!


Esther obeyed and took advice willingly.  Esther’s cousin told her not to reveal her Jewish identity.  Even though she quickly found favor with the eunuch in charge of the girls brought to the harem in the palace, she kept her identity a secret the whole time.  Each girl who was in the king’s harem was taken to him for one night.  At that point, she had been given months of beauty treatments, preparations, and could select whatever jewels and clothes she wanted to wear to see the king.  Do you know what Esther did?  She asked the eunuch in charge of the girls what he thought would please the king. She obeyed and took the advice of people she knew had her best interest at heart. 

She trusted those wiser than her and willingly took advice in both these situations.  So when you’re unsure what to do, seek Godly counsel and advice from those who have either been through a similiar situation before or are older and wiser.

See Esther 2:10 & Esther 2:15 or click for reference!

Esther fasted and prayed.  When Mordecai (Esther’s cousin) told her about the plot to kill the Jews (See Esther 3 for reference), Esther was clearly scared at first.  But then she asked for prayer on her behalf, and she herself fasted and prayed.  So much peace can be found when we pray over situations in our lives.  Praying and asking God for wisdom, help, guidance, whatever it is you need, helps our minds (at least it helps mine!) to remember that we are not in control and to release the control that we seek.  So just keep praying.  If you need an answer, pray for one!  If you need wisdom, pray for it! And don’t be afraid to ask others to pray for you as well.

See Esther 4:15-17 or click for reference!

Esther confronted the worst possible outcome.  Sometimes, the fear of what could be is what prevents us from making any moves at all. When we are unsure about big decisions, it is easy to just be consumed in worry and the what ifs.

But we aren’t called to be consumed in the could-bes. 

We are called to “laugh without fear of the future” (Prov 31).   So, in making her decision, Esther confronted what was the worst possible thing that could happen to her: in this case it was death.  In following her example, we need to realize that God will still be with us even if our worst possible outcome comes to fruition.  That’s what Esther did, and I think that’s where alot of her courage came from.

See Esther 4:16 or click for reference!

Esther took courageous action.  Esther didn’t just keep going back and forth.  She made a decision!  She went before the king and took bold, courageous action!  It can be so easy to just go back and forth, weighing each and every option a zillion times when  we are unsure of something.  Ultimately though, you are going to have to make a brave move! You are going to have to decide!  This life-alterting decision for Esther proved to pay off in countless ways- she was accepted by the king and saved her people!  Helloooo to the right choice!  But you know what? She didn’t know it was the right choice at the time.  For all she knew, she was walking into her literal death sentence.  But she had made a decision and took courageous action.

 Click or see Esther 5:1-2 for reference!


So girl, if there is something in your life that is just eating you alive because you don’t know what to do about it, look to Queen Esther!  I would almost guarentee you she was in your shoes way back when.

Seek Godly wisdom by obeying and taking advice of those you know have your best interest at heart. 

Then pray, pray and fast, ask others to pray and fast.  Get those prayers going! 

Next, come to terms with what you are afraid of…the worst possible outcome.  Know that God will be there with you even still.  

Make a decision and take courageous action!

xoxo taylor


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