Have you ever felt like you were just stuck in the same season of life FOREVER? Just spinning your wheels without really getting anywhere? Wanting to be five steps ahead of where you are currently? Going through the motions without any progress? I have. Whether it be that you’re in college waiting to graduate, single waiting for a relationship, unemployed waiting for the right job, a wife waiting to be a mom. Whatever your season is, I have been through waiting seasons too. Sometimes they are SO hard.
Wanting to walk through a door that just isn’t open for you yet is hard and sometimes painful.
So, if you’re in a season of waiting, here is what has helped me get through them. These tips might not always be easy, but when I have made the conscious effort to do these few things, I have found that I am much happier, content, and making better use of my time than when I just sit wallowing.
What if instead of wallowing in the wait, we praise Him for His purpose?
I bet we would be tons happier, more productive, more fun to be around, and overall more full of joy! And when we do get to walk through that open door, oh how much more we will praise the Lord and be overwhelmed with gratitude!
1. Read God’s Word- this is so much harder than it sounds sometimes! Life is so busy and it can be SOOOO easy to push reading the Bible to the back burner. But oh what a difference it makes when we do! Even if it is one verse a day, make a conscious effort to put God’s Word in your life more than it already is. That’s progress! Here are a few verses that have helped me through my seasons of waiting.
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4, ESV
“But if we look forward to something we don’t yet have, we must wait patiently and confidently.” Romans 8:25, NLT
“And who knows whether you have not come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” Esther 4:14, ESV
2. Focus on what you DO have- this is where your mindset really starts to change. When I decide to think about things that I DO have in my life instead of what I’m lacking, suddenly I don’t need whatever I’m waiting on quite as badly. Focus on things that you DO have…even if they seem like no brainers. Food to eat, a place to live, clothes to wear. Thinking about your blessings just puts you in a wayyyy better headspace than thinking about things that you don’t have. And when all else fails, just praise the Lord that He has a purpose for your life that no one else can fulfill! Remember, Romans 8:28 promises us that “All things work for good for those who love Him…” even the hard seasons of waiting.
3. Invest in opportunities of your now- try to think about things that you might not be able to do once your waiting season comes to an end. When I was single waiting for a relationship, I did my best to invest in my friendship, and I poured myself into my activities/job. I don’t regret a single second of doing either of those things. And why not? Because when my season of waiting had come to an end, I felt like I had made the most of the time that I had as a single girl. I learned lots about myself, I learned how to be content and happy in Jesus alone, I developed friendships that I know are going to last for my whole life, and I had a GREAT time being involved through college and then working. So make the most of opportuinties that you have now that you might not have in the future when the next season starts for you!
4. Pray- this doesn’t have to be fancy. Just literally tell the Lord how you are feeling- write it down, say it out loud, think it in your mind, just let it out! Cry if you need to. Be upset if you need to. But pray. My prayer (after I have thrown my tantrum lol) is that Jesus fills my heart and that I have patience, peace, whatever it is that I am needing. Praying also really helps me to quit wallowing. It forces me to come face to face with whatever I’m upset about waiting for. When we facing exactly what it is we are wanting/waiting for, lots of times, it starts to seem smaller and more insignificant.
5. Remember that this season is part of God’s plan for you! This can be hard to hear, especially if you are hurting or lonely or rejected or sick or whatever in your season. But, knowing that God has a perfect plan for your life AND for this season will bring peace and encouragement. It might not be immediate, it might not even come right away. But knowing that truth and TRULY believing it will help. As hard as it is, someday you will be thorugh this waiting season and have an incredible story to tell because you patiently and faithfully endured.
So friend, I hope that if you are waiting for something right now that these tips to making it through do help you! I have SO been there before!
For me, the hardest season of waiting so far was when I was in college and single. I hadn’t dated in high school, and when nobody came along freshman, sophomore, junior, then senior year of college, I started to feel really lonely, rejected, and just less-than overall. Not good enough. Not worthy. I knew that Christ was the only one who could truly satisfy me, but it was SO hard watching all my friends date, get engaged, get married, etc. all the while still having never even been on a real like dinner date. I can remember sitting alone in my room on Valentine’s Days reading my Bible and just crying. #pathetic. haha
After graduating, getting a job, moving away from home, and being on my own for a little while, I really started to understand how Jesus really is the only one who can fill our hearts and truly make us happy. I read my Bible the best that I could and knew how, I prayed, and eventually I got to a place where I was perfectly content in who I was in Jesus and being on my own. I didn’t feel like I needed a boy to be complete or happy or enough. I got to a place where I didn’t feel like waiting for a husband defined me and it didn’t affect my feelings about my worth or my identity.
Here is the crazy thing. I literally wrote in my prayer journal one day that I knew Jesus was the only one who could complete me, but that I felt ready to meet my husband and “do life” with someone. Somthing in me just clicked and I don’t know why; I just knew that I was ready. Yet I felt utterly content and complete with how things were at that exact moment. I met my husband about two weeks later.
Now, every season of waiting I’ve been through hasn’t always had a magical two week answer to my prayers, but this is just my favorite story of my own about just how faithful my God is. He is good, He is faithful, and He loves you oh so much.
In His perfect plan for your life, the season of NOW, of waiting, is shaping and molding your heart for something that you probably can’t see yet while you’re waiting for your door to open.
You might never see it on this side of heaven.
Having confidence in His plan and patience in the wait is what brings about contentment on the journey and peace in the moment though.
If you’re going through a season of waiting, I would love to pray for you! Send me an e-mail or drop a comment. I have been there too, girl!!! You WILL get through this and your best is yet to come!
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