I had planned to post this later on down the road…I have been working on it for a while, but it just never seemed to be like a good fit. Something in me snapped yesterday, and I felt like I needed to share it now with Christmas coming up. It is SO easy to get wrapped up in the things of this world and all that has become Christmas. SO easy to focus on what we have and don’t have and what we want and need that we forget what we have been GIVEN during this season.
All that to say that this post isn’t really what I pictured it to be and it’s not perfect by any means, but I am sharing it anyways hoping and praying that it blesses and speaks to someone during this holiday hustle and bustle. My prayer for you is that you feel truly satisfied at the end of this season because you know the One who came to give you that gift.
I have always wanted a pair of Louboutins. To me, they always looked so classic and glamorous. A “staple item” if you will to any shoe collection.
Fast forward to my first wedding anniversary…my husband TOTALLY outdoes himself and buys me a pair. I was thrilled. out. of. my. mind. I had bought a special outfit and jewelry for our anniversary and just felt like a princess when I put on my new best shoes ever that night!
However, I had SUCH high expectations for these shoes (I mean they’re Louboutins after all. haha), and I realized several things about them as I wore them. Then I thought, how often do I do this in my every day life? Whatever it might be that I’m chasing after-whether it be something material or a friendship or a job title or a position in a club or a relationship or whatever- how many times have I had expectations for something that were just completely too high? And once I have whatever the “it” is, how often do I find myself disappointed and still feeling unsatisfied?
In the end, Jesus is the only one who can truly complete and satisfy us. That’s something that I feel like I have always known and been told growing up in church, but applying that truth to my life has been a different story. Because I love a great pair of gorgeous heels or a pretty bag as much as the next girl. And I didn’t love being single for most of my life as much as the next single girl. Jesus being the only thing that I truly need is something that I have to remind myself of every day. And when I set my expectations too high and end up unsatisfied with the things of this world, it’s what I always come back to. Because it’s the truth.
So here are a few truths I’ve discovered from my Louboutins that I feel like have helped me to not necessarily lower, but have more realistic expectations for the things of this world. I find that I am less disappointed in whatever the “it” of the moment is when I am reminding myself of these truths over and over. I feel more satisfied even because I am repeatedly telling myself where my TRUE satisfaction and happiness comes from. I’m more able to appreciate and enjoy the “its” for what they are…blessings….rather than trying to find my sole happiness in them.
Truth #1: “Seek first the kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Matthew 6:33, NLT
My Louboutins still hurt my feet. As much as any other heel I have owned. For whatever reason, I thought that I would just feel so fabulous in them that I wouldn’t notice if they hurt my feet. But I did notice. And all I wanted to do when I got back to our room was rip them off and bask in barefootness.
I feel like that I have done this in life as well. I have the notion that whatever it is I’m wanting at the time…a boyfriend, a job, whatever will be all gain and no pain. And that has hardly ever been the case. But when I go back and truly examine my heart during those seasons of wanting and then getting, I wasn’t wanting Jesus. The only thing I need. I wasn’t truly putting Him first. My motivation for chasing after that worldly “it” was selfish at its core.
Do you notice in the verse how it says that we should seek FIRST the Kingdom above ALL else? It also says to live righteously. Selfish ambition or pleasure isn’t righteous and certainly doesn’t seek the Lord first. Not seeking Jesus first will DEFINITELY lead to pain, hurt, and yes, dissatisfaction, in the end, just like heels will still hurt your feet…no matter how pretty they are.
Truth #2: “Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.” Isaiah 41:10, NLT
My Louboutins were still hard to walk in. Once again, I expected that these shoes would just be a breeze to walk in because they were so beautiful. But they’re just like any other fairly skinny heel. I still preferred holding on to my husband’s strong, secure arm as we walked over uneven surfaces and rough pavement.
Sometimes, things just look so perfect that I think we tend to forget that they might be hard when we are actually walking through them. We might need help. I know sometimes when I realize this, I am too proud to ask for it though. Then that just makes it worse.
The good news for us is that God is still with us. Him being with us might mean that we need to walk away from whatever we have chased. It might be that He sees us through whatever we have been chasing. Maybe he gives us new perspective on it. Whatever He does, we can be sure that He is ALWAYS with us. And He will walk with us when it gets hard, just as my sweet husband walked with me over all the pavement and hard, uneven surfaces on our anniversary night as we went to dinner.
Truth #3: “The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, O God.” Psalm 51:17 NLT
My Louboutins still got scuffed up when I wore them. I don’t know why, but I had this idea that these shoes were going to stay absolutely as perfect as they were in the box when my husband purchased them forever. They didn’t. I cried a little inside when I took them off the first time and saw what just ONE wear had done to them. Once again, I felt unsatisfied and disappointed. The beautiful red bottoms now have scuffs from actually wearing the shoes and walking in them.
Isn’t that how life is? We THINK that this one thing will just absolutely be all we ever need and that it’s going to be PERFECT and then STAY perfect! However, most times, even if it starts out as perfect as we thought it would, we just end up hurt, maybe rejected, with wounded pride…whatever it is. When we actually walk in the desire we had and experience the disappointment of our high expectations being shattered, we often end up broken and yet again…unsatisfied.
But there is good news. Even when we have set our expectations too high and end up broken, God is still there and still loves us. To put context to this verse, this Psalm is one of David after he has been confronted about committing murder and having an affair. David did get caught up in worldly lust, and I bet he expected that if he could only be with Bathsheba, his life would be perfect and complete. Well, that led to a whole slew of other events and at the end of it all, David ended up experiencing heartache and brokenness.
But God was still so good to David even after this because he brought his brokenness to Him and truly repented. So the good news for us here is no matter what we chase and how unsatisfied we end up, God is still good. And if we bring Him our brokenness, pain, and scars He will be there. And He will satisfy you and fill your soul in ways that you have never imagined!
So in summary, I know just how easy it is to think that if we just had “IT”, our life would be complete. Totally been there. But in thinking about how high my expectations for my Louboutins were and then realizing how often I do this with other things in my life as well, I also noticed that there have been some similarities in the way I still feel unsatisfied after I have obtained the “it” I was chasing at the time. Clinging to these truths has helped me to enjoy the “its” and view them as blessings and fun, not the sole thing that will make me satisfied with that portion of my life.
And you know what, I just LOVE wearing those beautiful red bottomed heels walking on the arm of the sweet boy who bought them for me even more now that I have realized all this! And they are the first ones I reach for anytime I want to wear a gorgeous pair of heels!
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